Hello there, from a very pleasant Maltese morning with air you can actually breath.
This post has been churning in my brain for a while.I wanted to make it possible that someone would read this; and will feel better and go on with their day smiling.
Here it goes….When I turned 31, I felt the largest pressure in my whole entire life. Being a disgustingly positive person I go through life pushing away any wrong, but this didn’t want to budge.
In recent years I was expected to be or do many things, and when I turned 25 the pressures of a ‘copy cat’ society started cracking in. You know when you are at that age where you still want to party hard, go out all the time, laugh and drink at your hearts desire. Yet there are these little human gremlins that start pushing you into ‘do you have a boyfriend?’, ‘will you soon get engaged’ or ‘when are you getting married darling?’ .
At that time most would shrug it off, but then Facebook crops up! ‘ She said YES’, ‘ We got our first house’ or ‘ third baby on the way!!’. Then you kind of start thinking.
Why do we have to think though? There is no thinking that should be done but two questions should be asked.
Are you happy with the life YOU have?
Are you happy with YOURSELF?
About 17 years ago in my teens I felt useless, ugly and thought life wont get any better, then I started thinking about the good things in life, I wrote them and to my surprise their was more good. I remember I watched a documentary about a little girl who was born with the most radical deformities, the next clip of the documentary, she was putting on make up like she didn’t have none of those problems.Today that girl lives alone and made me get on the path of being happy with what you have.I am now 31 years old and since I turned 17 I made sure I bow to myself and to every footstep. When it comes for the ‘Trouser Gremlins’ ( Boyfriends ) their where LOADS but none of them had an element of love. Its only when I peeked into my ‘self love’ at 21 that the man I call my husband appeared suddenly in my life.
And if that man does not happen for you, YOU still have YOURSELF. I CANNOT stand people who are down in a vortex of doom cause they do not have a man in their life. That doom is showing and it will affect every part of your life. Why does a pair of trousers take over a life there are so many colourful things around. Reading a book, shopping online , chatting to a foreign friend , going for a bottle of wine with your friend/mum/cousin/workmate, baking, volunteering with animals or orphans , spending time with people you love , giving a home to a pet and travelling must be the most fulfilling event in life.
I guess what I am saying is (again) a pair of trousers (a man) does not constitute to a great life, that is what society in general wants us to think. When you start fighting with yourself or your partner about , when that engagement ring is coming, when the house is going to be bought, when the first baby is coming STOP. Just stop. There is no schedule in life. Whoever or no matter what people say there is NO schedule. The only schedule you will need to concentrate on is yourself. Pressuring life events will ruin the joyful moments when they catch you by surprise, being in love with who you are will give you strength for life to hurl you anything.
Now you may say, well kids you need to be a certain age due to many factors, maybe primarily medically. Well don’t you worry at 31 the avalanche of people wanting me to pop some kids is ridiculous. Telling me that time is ticking is one of the top 5 reasons why I should be a mother NOW. Not mentioning how rude and selfish for a person to ask another human about kids when some people are struggling, when some people cannot at all or when other don’t feel like they want to be mothers. Not mentioning that bringing a kid in the world JUST because A B & C all had kids is ridiculous and childish. I get one person that touches my flat tummy and tell’s me ‘is there someone in there?’, I get people telling me ‘you are 31 with no kid!’ and other who assume the worse and make sure they tell you ‘it’s cause im looking out for you’.You bring kids in the world cause you and your partner spoke about this and you want to have a little human to give your whole entire being other than that there is no discussion about it.
Waiting for these life events is a waste of a life. Waiting around is a waste. There is far too much to be done to build the best model of you and I am not speaking about selfies or confirming your social life on Facebook!
I am absolutely 100% sure there is someone out there that got depressed cause they do not have a partner, or a house , or got proposed too or have no bun in the oven. Reality is that we need to learn not to over think assumptions, that people around us throw at us. If Facebook is bothering you pull yourself off it and check it twice a week for example. The pursue of happiness will get you to a place so positive that no one can bother you any
more, so just run after that each and every day of your life! Promise it will make a difference.
Take Care peeps 😉